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SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY
APPELLATE DIVISION
DOCKET NO. A-5559-17T2
A. M.,
Plaintiff-Respondent,
v.
M. P.,
Defendant-Appellant.
_________________________
Argued March 20, 2019 – Decided April 15, 2019
Before Judges Nugent and Reisner.
On appeal from Superior Court of New Jersey,
Chancery Division, Family Part, Monmouth County,
Docket No. FV-13-1286-18.
Kenneth W. Biedzynski argued the cause for appellant
(Goldzweig, Green, Eiger & Biedzynski, LLC,
attorneys; Kenneth W. Biedzynski, of counsel and on
the brief).
A. M., respondent, argued the cause pro se.
PER CURIAM
Defendant M.P. appeals from a June 25, 2018 amended final restraining
order (FRO) under the Prevention of Domestic Violence Act (PDVA), N.J.S.A.
2C:25-17 to -35, in favor of plaintiff A.M. The judge concluded that defendant's
conduct, which consisted of sending plaintiff a series of vulgar and insulting text
messages, constituted harassment. See L.M.F. v. J.A.F., Jr., 421 N.J. Super.
523, 532 (App. Div. 2011). However, the judge did not make the factual
findings required by Silver v. Silver, 387 N.J. Super. 112, 126-27 (App. Div.
2006). Therefore, we remand this case to the trial judge for reconsideration and
additional factual findings. Due to the amount of time that has elapsed since the
FRO hearing, the trial judge may, in his discretion, choose to hear additional
testimony from the parties before making the additional findings on remand. We
leave the FRO in place pending the proceedings on remand.
The parties were never married to each other, although they dated for
several years and lived together for a period of time. They have two children,
who now live with plaintiff but visit defendant on the weekends. On April 29,
2018, plaintiff filed a domestic violence (DV) complaint, asserting that plaintiff
was "having issues" with defendant concerning "their son[']s football team and
tax situation" and an argument about these matters "escalated" to the point that
defendant became "verbally abusive." For reasons not explained on this record,
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the court entered a temporary restraining order (TRO) that prohibited defendant
from having contact with the couple's two children, although there were no
allegations of any threats to, or abuse of, the children.
The following summary is drawn from the record of the FRO hearing.
Both parties' appendices contain copies of the text message exchanges in
question, although in defendant's appendix only his messages are legible. In
substance, the parties' communications focused on their disagreements over
their tax returns and their seven-year-old son's participation in a youth football
league. However, they differed greatly in their tone and content. Defendant's
text messages can fairly be described as angry, racist, sexist, obscene,
demeaning, and immature. Among the litany of abuse, he called plaintiff a
"n****r," a "c*nt, and a "b*tch." In two of the messages, he stated that he hoped
plaintiff would drop dead. In another text, he told plaintiff not to attend their
son's football game and said he would drag their son off the football field if
plaintiff showed up to watch the game. He also ranted about his view that he
was paying too much child support.
Plaintiff's responses were restrained in tone and tended to focus on the
substance of what the parties were discussing, such as the son's football games.
Some of plaintiff's text messages reproached defendant for throwing verbal
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temper tantrums when he did not get his own way. However, she did not tell
him to stop sending her text messages or tell him to stop using foul language.
Neither party's communications threatened any physical harm to the other. The
closest thing to a threat was defendant's statement that he would drag the son off
the football field if plaintiff attended the game.
In her testimony, plaintiff tried to put the text message exchange in
context. She described defendant's alleged prior acts of domestic violence
which occurred while the couple were still living together, including physical
acts such as punching walls and throwing things. She testified that defendant
took steroids and would experience episodes of senseless rage. With respect to
defendant's current conduct, plaintiff told the judge that she was tired of
receiving defendant's abusive text messages when she was at work, because they
were upsetting and a distraction. She was also tired of defendant's unreasonable
ranting and raving about which football program their seven-year-old son was
going to participate in. However, plaintiff was also concerned that defendant
had not seen the children in two months because the TRO restrained defendant
from seeing the children.
In his testimony, defendant asserted that plaintiff manipulated him into
leasing a car for her, in exchange for her promise to let the son play in the
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football league defendant thought was a better fit for the son. Defendant became
angry when plaintiff then signed the son up for a different league. According to
defendant, he responded to this deception by telling plaintiff that he wanted her
to return to him the assorted football equipment he had bought for his son.
Defendant testified that he was also angry because plaintiff claimed the children
as a deduction on her tax returns for the second year in a row. He explained that
he resented the fact that he paid child support but, in his view, plaintiff excluded
him from decisions about the children that he felt were important.
In her summation, plaintiff stated that defendant had threatened to get her
fired from her job, something that was neither mentioned in her complaint nor
the subject of any testimony. She also described her past struggles to get out
from under what she perceived as defendant's "control." She described the stress
she felt at never knowing when defendant would become upset and send her
hostile text messages about what she thought were trivial matters.
After referring to the findings Silver generally requires, the trial judge
made only very brief factual findings concerning this case. He found that
defendant's text messages contained offensively coarse language. He found that
although many people occasionally use foul language in text messages,
defendant's text messages "clearly went over the top" and were sent "with a
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purpose to harass." The judge also found that because defendant sent
increasingly offensive text messages over a period of several days, "a restraining
order is necessary." The judge did not find that plaintiff was in fear of
defendant. Nor did he make any findings concerning prior alleged harassment,
threats, or acts of domestic violence, although there was testimony about some
of those acts.
In issuing the FRO, the judge deleted the TRO's prohibition against
defendant having contact with the children. He prohibited defendant from
communicating with plaintiff, but then amended that provision to permit
defendant to send plaintiff email messages about the children on a limited basis.
In his appeal, defendant contends that, although the text messages
contained offensive language, they did not rise to the level of harassment or
domestic violence, and did not constitute "a predicate act which would warrant
the issuance of a final restraining order." He also asserts that the trial court
"failed to find that an FRO was necessary to protect plaintiff." Plaintiff urges
that we affirm the FRO. She contends that the content and "extent" of the text
messages rose to the level of harassment, and defendant will continue to harass
her unless a FRO is in place.
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In reviewing the issuance of the FRO on appeal, we must defer to the trial
judge's factual findings if supported by substantial credible evidence, and we
owe particular deference to the judge's expertise and his evaluation of witness
credibility. Cesare v. Cesare, 154 N.J. 394, 412-13 (1998). However, we review
legal conclusions de novo. J.N.S. v. D.B.S., 302 N.J. Super. 525, 530 (App.
Div. 1997). In the absence of sufficient factual findings, we cannot defer to a
trial court's legal conclusions about whether domestic violence has occurred.
See Silver, 387 N.J. Super. at 128.
In Silver, we addressed the findings that a trial court must make before
deciding whether to issue a FRO. After discussing the distinction between an
incident of domestic violence, and the sort of domestic interpersonal conflict
that would not rise to the level of domestic violence, we stated:
[W]hen determining whether a restraining order should
be issued based on an act of assault or, for that matter,
any of the predicate acts, the court must consider the
evidence in light of whether there is a previous history
of domestic violence, and whether there exists
immediate danger to person or property.
....
The second inquiry, upon a finding of the commission
of a predicate act of domestic violence, is whether the
court should enter a restraining order that provides
protection for the victim. . . . [T]he Legislature did not
intend that the commission of one of the enumerated
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predicate acts of domestic violence automatically
mandates the entry of a domestic violence restraining
order.
[Silver, 387 N.J. Super. at 126-27 (citation omitted).]
In deciding whether a FRO is necessary, the court should consider the six
factors set forth in the PDVA, N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(a)(1) to (6). 1 Silver, 387 N.J.
Super. at 127. In Silver, we left the restraints in place, but remanded the case to
the trial court to make further findings concerning "the second step in the
analysis" – including considering and making "specific findings on the previous
history of domestic violence, if any," between the parties and how that history
affected the issue of whether issuance of a FRO was warranted. Id. at 128.
As our courts have repeatedly cautioned, "[v]ulgar name-calling alone is
not domestic violence." R.G. v. R.G., 449 N.J. Super. 208, 226 (App. Div.
2017). A court must find that vulgar language – or, as here, a series of vulgar
text messages – was directed at the victim with an intent to harass. See L.M.F.,
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The six factors are: "(1) The previous history of domestic violence between
the plaintiff and defendant, including threats, harassment and physical abuse;
(2) The existence of immediate danger to person or property; (3) The financial
circumstances of the plaintiff and defendant; (4) The best interests of the victim
and any child; (5) In determining custody and parenting time the protection of
the victim's safety; and (6) The existence of a verifiable order of protection
from another jurisdiction." N.J.S.A. 2C:25-29(A)(1) to (6).
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412 N.J. Super. at 535-36. The court must support such a finding with citations
to evidence. As the Supreme Court has held:
Although a purpose to harass can be inferred from a
history between the parties, that finding must be
supported by some evidence that the actor's conscious
object was to alarm or annoy; mere awareness that
someone might be alarmed or annoyed is insufficient.
The victim's subjective reaction alone will not suffice;
there must be evidence of the improper purpose.
[J.D. v. M.D.F., 207 N.J. 458, 487 (2011) (citations
omitted).]
Issuing a FRO based only on offensive text messages or the like generally
requires factual findings about the context in which the communications were
made. See R.G., 449 N.J. Super. at 227. The history of domestic violence, if
any, between the parties can be important. See L.M.F., 421 N.J. Super. at 536-
37. "A history of domestic violence may serve to give content to otherwise
ambiguous behavior and support entry of a restraining order." J.D., 207 N.J. at
483. In this case, plaintiff testified about the history of the parties' relationship,
including defendant's alleged history of threatening, controlling or violent
behavior, which could put his current conduct in context. But the judge made
no findings about any of that testimony. His finding that defendant's language
became increasingly foul over time did not, by itself, justify his conclusion that
it was necessary to issue a FRO for plaintiff's protection.
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Because the trial judge made insufficient factual findings, we are
constrained to remand this case for reconsideration and further factual findings
in accordance with this opinion. As previously noted, the trial court may, but is
not required to, hear further testimony from the parties concerning their current
circumstances in light of the time that has elapsed since the FRO was entered.
Remanded. We do not retain jurisdiction.
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