OPINION OF THE COURT
Tom, J.The issue on appeal is whether, under the narrow circumstances of this case, the insured may change the designation of beneficiary on a life insurance policy, nunc pro tunc, by means of a testamentary disposition when the insurance company, by paying the proceeds of the policy to the court, has waived technical compliance with its change of beneficiary requirements.
The relevant facts are essentially undisputed. This is a tragic case in which the insured, while still a young man, and shortly after his 1972 marriage to plaintiff, was diagnosed in 1973 as suffering from multiple sclerosis. During his employment the insured had been provided with life insurance coverage issued by defendant Aetna Life Insurance Company with a 1973 effective date. On the enrollment card, he designated his then-wife, plaintiff, to be the beneficiary. The insured retained the power to change the designation of beneficiary, but no change of beneficiary was ever filed with the carrier.
As a result of his illness, the insured soon developed severe tremors and underwent an operation on his brain to alleviate *213this condition. In 1974, the insured started to lose his sight, and was certified to be medically blind shortly thereafter. His marriage, which had been entered into in the State of Virginia, deteriorated along with his physical health, and he had to move into his father’s Pennsylvania home in 1977. Although the insured’s marital separation was not formalized into a divorce decree until 1978, the father, after the son moved in with him, assumed exclusive responsibility for the care of his son. During the next seven years, the father cared for and attended to the needs of his bedridden son, who was a quadriplegic at the time of death.
The parties’ separation agreement dated February 27, 1978, governed by Virginia law, was incorporated into the divorce decree. It provided for a complete property settlement, which has relevant features. Not only did the insured specifically not make any provision for plaintiff that was to survive the divorce, but plaintiff agreed to pay the insured alimony for a four-year period. It appears from the record that at some point the insured was required to commence litigation to enforce compliance with this provision. The insured agreed to assume responsibility for all of his medical costs, and each party relinquished all rights, title and interests against the other party. The intent of the insured to deprive his ex-wife of any financial benefits was manifested more clearly in the 1977 last will, which was holographically prepared, apparently without the advice of counsel. This will specifically revoked a prior will bequeathing the estate to plaintiff, and now bequeathed to his father all of his assets, specifically including all insurance benefits. The will was probated in the State of Pennsylvania. Its provisions are not challenged, excepting the effectiveness of disposition of the insurance policy, and we give the decree of the Pennsylvania court full force and effect insofar as such is consistent with the relevant State insurance law.
Upon the death of the insured in 1984, plaintiff (since remarried), as the beneficiary of record, and the insured’s father, Emil Kapcar, each made a claim upon Aetna for the proceeds of the policy. Aetna paid the money into the court and plaintiff commenced the instant action against Aetna which then interpleaded Emil Kapcar.
The Civil Court held that the plaintiff was entitled to the policy proceeds. The Appellate Term (Parness, J., dissenting), affirmed the decision of the Civil Court, essentially for the reasons stated by the Civil Court, on grounds including, inter alia, that plaintiff was the beneficiary designated in the policy *214application by decedent prior to his death, and that the insured had not taken affirmative steps to do all that he reasonably could have done to effect a change in the designated beneficiary of the policy prior to his death. Interpleaded defendant Kapcar appeals, by leave of the Appellate Term, the decision and order of the Appellate Term, and we now reverse.
In the group life insurance policy issued by Aetna, the terms explicitly provide that: "This policy shall be construed in accordance with the laws of Delaware, where it is delivered”.
We would give effect to the choice of law provision in the insurance contract itself to determine a material term going to the heart of that contract, to wit, the enforceability of the technical procedures for changing the designation of beneficiary. By arguing for the applicability of Pennsylvania law to govern the insurance law issue, plaintiff and the dissent misconstrue the limited applicability of Pennsylvania’s probate law regarding a testamentary instrument executed in that State for a Pennsylvania resident. Pennsylvania insurance law would not operate to govern interpretation of an insurance contract, such as the one before us, which has no nexus with that State, rendering irrelevant plaintiff’s reliance on Carruthers v $21,000 (290 Pa Super 54, 434 A2d 125). We respectfully part issue with the dissent on this point. Further, the insurance policy unequivocally provides that the laws of Delaware shall govern.
Delaware case law, albeit in a different factual context, has allowed for a challenge by a claimant to the payment of life insurance proceeds under contested circumstances in which the designated beneficiary could not rely entirely on her status as the beneficiary of record (Carpenter v Greene, 396 A2d 150 [Del]). The Delaware Supreme Court in Carpenter held that the decedent’s intent was a controlling factor, under the circumstances of that case, in the determination of the rightful beneficiary of decedent’s life insurance policy. The dissent acknowledges that in Carpenter the focal point was the decedent’s intention to name another beneficiary of the policy proceeds. By analogy, plaintiff herein would not be entitled as a matter of law to the proceeds of this policy under circumstances where the manifest intentions of the insured, rather than the fact of a prior designation of beneficiary, became the analytical focus by virtue of the carrier’s waiver of strict compliance with policy terms governing disposition of the proceeds.
Even based on the law of New York, under the narrow circumstances of this case, we could reach the same conclusion *215without diluting the sound reasoning otherwise requiring strict adherence to policy procedures for changing beneficiaries (see, EPTL 13-3.2). New York has judicially adopted (see, Kane v Union Mut. Life Ins. Co., 84 AD2d 148, appeal dismissed 57 NY2d 956; Aetna Life Ins. Co. v Sterling, 15 AD2d 334, affd 11 NY2d 959; Considine v Considine, 255 App Div 876) an equitable principle recognized by other States (see, Franklin Life Ins. Co. v Mast, 435 F2d 1038; Sears v Austin, 292 F2d 690, 693, cert denied 368 US 929; Doss v Kalas, 94 Ariz 247, 383 P2d 169) when the insured retains the right to change beneficiaries (cf, Kornacki v Mutual Life Ins. Co., 195 AD2d 847 [when insured tried to change designation of beneficiary, he lacked the power to do so; his uncle was the "rightsholder” so empowered]), allowing for noncompliance with the policy requirements for changing designations of beneficiaries. The policy in this case provides that a change in beneficiary must be made in writing and that the form is to be filed with the carrier. The insurance policy’s procedure for doing so is designed to protect the interest of the carrier from multiple inconsistent claims, but strict compliance with such may be waived by the carrier (Kane v Union Mut. Life Ins. Co., supra). By not contesting the obligation to pay a beneficiary, manifested by surrendering the proceeds for court-ordered disbursement, so that only the rights of the respective claimants are before the court, the carrier may be deemed to have abandoned its insistence on technical compliance with these procedures (Kane v Union Mut. Life Ins. Co., supra, at 154; Aetna Life Ins. Co. v Sterling, supra, at 335; cf., Cook v Aetna Life Ins. Co., 166 AD2d 895). While the dissent contends that we are making a "new contract! ] for the parties”, in this case the precise point is that, when one party waives the method of amending a term of the contract, we may inquire into whether the other party, now deceased, took steps to amend the effect of that term. Then, the intent of the insured, if sufficiently evidenced, may prevail over the technical designation in the policy. The point is critical to this appeal, and on this basis we respectfully disagree with the dissent’s characterization that "the result in this case should be determined by the provisions in the insurance contract”. Rather, the result, under these narrow circumstances, should flow from the persuasiveness of the evidence that the insured intended to deprive his wife of the benefits of the policy.
A will, duly admitted to probate, clearly manifesting the insured’s intent, especially when supported by corroborative *216documentation evincing the insured’s intent, may effectively change the beneficiary of the policy under appropriate circumstances (compare, Franklin Life Ins. Co. v Mast, supra, at 1043, with Matter of Jaccoma, 142 AD2d 875, lv denied 73 NY2d 703 [employer providing insurance did not waive rights of strict compliance; hence, testamentary disposition was irrelevant]).
This equitable approach replaced a prior, more exacting, "substantial compliance” rule that required the insured to do all in his or her power to comply with the procedure (see, discussion in Franklin Life, supra). This Court had required evidence of some affirmative manifestation of the intent, but recognized that the court should decide between rival claimants on the basis of which one the deceased would have preferred to receive the proceeds (Aetna Life Ins. Co. v Sterling, supra), while leaving the adequacy of the proof to be determined in each case. Although the insured in one case took extensive steps to comply with the policy’s procedure, those factual circumstances were sufficient for, but not necessary to, the court’s ruling validating the changed designation (Cable v Prudential Ins. Co., 89 AD2d 636; accord, Lopez v Massachusetts Mut. Life Ins. Co., 170 AD2d 583). In Cable, the Third Department, in dicta, noted that the insured had done all that was possible to effectuate the change in the policy. This is a superimposition on the basic equitable principle, and is inconsistent with the more flexible posture we adopted in Aetna Life {supra). This more flexible approach, requiring only evidence of manifest intent, rather than evidence that the insured had taken all possible steps, has been followed in Kane v Union Mut. Life Ins. Co. (84 AD2d 148, appeal dismissed 57 NY2d 956, citing Franklin Life Ins. Co. v Mast, supra; Sears v Austin, supra, at 693; Doss v Kalas, supra) and more recently, by analogy, in Matter of Morse (150 Misc 2d 415 [the will sufficiently manifested the insured’s intent—"the paramount factor to be ascertained”—to change the designation of beneficiary for death benefits in an annuity]). Manifest intent would require some steps beyond a statement, uttered during the decedent’s lifetime, of mere intent. We emphasize the distinction, but allow for the manifestation of intent to be demonstrated by efforts short of all possible steps to change the policy. To this extent, we also respectfully part with the approach favored by the dissent.
Turning to the facts of the present case, the insured’s intention to divest his ex-wife of any financial benefit resulting from his life—or his death—could not have been more plainly stated. *217In the separation agreement, in the divorce decree, and, finally, in the will, the insured sought to extinguish any benefit which his ex-wife otherwise might have realized.
In the separation agreement, plaintiff specifically waived all rights to "the real, personal and mixed property of the husband * * * or estate of the husband * * * except only such rights as she may have in this agreement”. Although the wife’s waiver with respect to the insured’s property would not necessarily control the disposition of insurance proceeds payable upon his death, insofar as such benefits do not accrue until the death of the insured, nevertheless, the insured’s general intent to deprive his ex-wife of any financial benefits arising in connection with him was manifest.*
Plaintiff was no longer living with decedent at the time of the execution of the settlement agreement and the insured continuously lived with his father until the time of his death. As to the will, the insured, after specifically revoking a prior will in favor of plaintiff, bequeathed all of his assets and other property, including "all my * * * insurance benefits”, to his father, with residuary bequests to his siblings. Again, the insured, technically, had no insurance "benefits” to bequeath, but insofar as the will reflected an intention to effect disposition of the insured’s contractual right to change beneficiaries, it bears on the point in issue. The evidence conclusively supports the finding that the insured at the time of death did not intend for plaintiff to receive the policy proceeds. Further, the evidence is clear that he intended to vest his insurance benefits in a different designated beneficiary—his father. Since the insurance carrier does not demand strict adherence to the *218company’s method for doing so, the potential bar to the effective change has been removed and we are free to exercise our equitable jurisdiction to give effect to the insured’s manifest intent.
Accordingly, the order of the Appellate Term of the Supreme Court, First Department, entered August 10, 1995, which affirmed an order and judgment (one paper) of the Civil Court, New York County (Sheila Abdus-Salaam, J.), entered October 18, 1993, after a nonjury trial, in favor of plaintiff, directing that the proceeds of a life insurance policy be paid to plaintiff, should be reversed, on the law and facts, without costs, and the interpleader plaintiff is directed to pay the proceeds plus interest to interpleaded defendant-appellant.
Several jurisdictions even give effect to a complete property settlement set forth in a separation agreement to extinguish the rights of a former spouse/designee to life insurance benefits. (See generally, Annotation, Property Settlement Agreement as Affecting Divorced Spouse’s Right to Recover as Named Beneficiary Under Former Spouse’s Life Insurance Policy, 31 ALR4th 59, 64-65 § 7 [a].) Even in jurisdictions where the separation agreement does not, per se, effect a change in beneficiaries (see generally, id., § 7 [b]), often rulings in favor of the former spouse/designee have either turned on additional evidence that the decedent had not intended to change the beneficiary to the particular policy (see generally, ibid.; Davis v Davis, 301 So 2d 154 [Fla]; Pate v Citizens & S. Natl. Bank, 203 Ga 442, 47 SE2d 277), or that the insurer had not waived its right to require strict adherence to formal requirements to change the designation of beneficiary, or that there was an absence of any evidence that the insured had intended to deprive the ex-spouse of insurance benefits (Gnekow v Metropolitan Life Ins. Co., 108 SW2d 621 [Mo]). These latter cases, of course, are distinguishable in these regards from the present case.