Debra H. v. Janice R.

OPINION OF THE COURT

Read, J.

Respondent Janice R. is the biological mother of M.R., a six-year-old boy conceived through artificial insemination and born in December 2003. Janice R. and petitioner Debra H. met in 2002 and entered into a civil union in the State of Vermont in November 2003, the month before M.R.’s birth. Janice R. repeatedly rebuffed Debra H.’s requests to become M.R.’s second parent by means of adoption.

After the relationship between Janice R. and Debra H. soured and they separated in the spring of 2006, Janice R. allowed Debra H. to have supervised visits with M.R. each week on Sunday, Wednesday and Friday for specified periods of time, as well as daily contact by telephone. In the spring of 2008, however, Janice R. began scaling back the visits. By early May 2008, she had cut off all communication between Debra H. and M.R.

In mid-May 2008, Debra H. brought this proceeding against Janice R. in Supreme Court by order to show cause. She sought *587joint legal and physical custody of M.R, restoration of access and decisionmaking authority with respect to his upbringing, and appointment of an attorney for the child.1 After a hearing on May 21, 2008, the judge signed the order to show cause, which set a briefing schedule, and the parties, at his instance, entered into a “so-ordered” stipulation that reinstated the three-day-a-week visitation schedule previously followed. The stipulation required M.R.’s nanny or a mutually agreed-upon third party to accompany M.R. when he visited Debra H.

As Supreme Court later put it, “few facts . . . [were] undisputed” at the hearings and in the parties’ submissions, which “differed] substantially with respect to the nature and extent of [Debra H.’s] relationship with [Janice R.] and, more significantly, with M.R.” (NYLJ, Oct. 9, 2008, at 26, col 1, 2008 NY Misc LEXIS 6367, *1, 5 [Sup Ct, NY County 2008]). At the hearing on July 10, 2008, Debra H. acknowledged our decision in Matter of Alison D. v Virginia M. (77 NY2d 651 [1991]), which held that only a child’s biological or adoptive parent has standing to seek visitation against the wishes of a fit custodial parent, but contended that Matter of Shondel J. v Mark D. (7 NY3d 320 [2006]) endorsed a nonbiological or nonadoptive parent’s right to invoke equitable estoppel to secure visitation or custody notwithstanding Alison D. In support of this interpretation of our precedents, Debra H. emphasized that Shondel J. cited Jean Maby H. v Joseph H. (246 AD2d 282 [2d Dept 1998]), a divorce proceeding in which the husband successfully invoked equitable estoppel to seek custody and visitation with a child born to the wife prior to the marriage, whom he neither fathered nor adopted. Debra H. also urged Supreme Court to consider the effect of the parties’ civil union, and alluded to the Vermont Supreme Court’s decision in Miller-Jenkins v Miller-Jenkins (180 Vt 441, 912 A2d 951 [2006], cert denied 550 US 918 [2007]).

In opposition to Debra H.’s application, Janice R. stressed that she had always spurned Debra H.’s entreaties to permit a second-parent adoption. She argued that Alison D., which interpreted Domestic Relations Law § 70, was not eroded or overruled by Shondel J., a case involving a filiation determination; pointed out that the Legislature did not amend section 70 after Alison D. was handed down, or elsewhere enact any *588provision broadening standing to seek visitation or custody; and observed that Janice R conceived M.R. prior to entering into the civil union with Debra H. in Vermont. At the hearing’s conclusion, Supreme Court reserved decision and continued visitation in a further “so-ordered” stipulation.

In a decision and order filed on October 9, 2008, Supreme Court ruled in Debra H.’s favor. The judge reasoned that “it [was] inconsistent to estop a nonbiological father from disclaiming paternity in order to avoid support obligations, but preclude a nonbiological parent from invoking [equitable estoppel] against the biological parent in order to maintain an established relationship with the child” since, in either event, “the court’s primary concern should be furthering the best interests of the child” (2008 NY Misc LEXIS 6367, *25).

Supreme Court concluded that the facts alleged by Debra H., if true, “established] a prima facie basis for invoking the doctrine of equitable estoppel” (id. at *25-26). In this regard, the judge considered the parties’ civil union to be “a significant, though not necessarily a determinative, factor in [Debra H.’s] estoppel argument” because, under Vermont law, “parties to a civil union are given the same benefits, protections and responsibilities ... as are granted to those in a marriage,” which “includes the assumption that the birth of a child during a couple’s legal union is ‘extremely persuasive evidence of joint parentage’ ” (id. at *26, quoting Miller-Jenkins, 180 Vt at 466, 912 A2d at 971).

Because of the many contested facts, however, Supreme Court ordered another hearing to resolve whether Debra H. stood in loco parentis to M.R., as she asserted, and therefore possessed standing to seek visitation and custody. The judge noted that, in the event Debra H. succeeded in proving the facts that she alleged, a further hearing would then be required to assess whether it was in M.R.’s best interest to award Debra H. visitation and/or custodial rights. Supreme Court continued the existing “so-ordered” stipulation permitting supervised visitation, and also granted Debra H.’s request for appointment of an attorney to represent the child.

Janice R. appealed, and obtained a stay of the equitableestoppel hearing ordered by Supreme Court, pending disposition of the appeal. On April 9, 2009, the Appellate Division unanimously reversed on the law, vacated Supreme Court’s order, denied the petition, and dismissed the proceeding. The court

*589acknowledged that while the “record indicate[d] that [Debra H.] served as a loving and caring parental figure during the first 2½ years of [M.R.’s] life, she never legally adopted [him]” and, in accordance with Alison D., “a party who is neither the biological nor the adoptive parent of a child lacks standing to seek custody or visitation rights under Domestic Relations Law § 70” (61 AD3d 460, 461 [1st Dept 2009]). The Appellate Division commented that, to the extent that denial of any right to equitable estoppel in this case might be considered inconsistent with Shondel J. and Jean Maby H., its own “reading of precedent [was] such that the doctrine of equitable estoppel may not be invoked where a party lacks standing to assert at least a right to visitation” (id.).

Both Debra H. and the attorney for the child asked the Appellate Division for a stay of enforcement so as to allow visitation to continue until further appellate proceedings were completed, and for leave to appeal to us. Pending resolution of those motions, a Justice of the Appellate Division granted Debra H.’s emergency application for an interim stay and allowed Sunday visitation. After the Appellate Division denied the motions on June 25, 2009 (2009 NY Slip Op 76701[U]), Debra H. and the attorney for the child separately asked us for leave to appeal and sought another stay.

On July 13, 2009, a Judge of this Court signed a “so-ordered” stipulation continuing one-day-a-week visitation. And on September 1, 2009, we granted Debra H. and the attorney for the child permission to appeal (13 NY3d 702 [2009]). We also approved their request for a further stay to the extent of reinstating and permitting enforcement of so much of Supreme Court’s order as allowed Debra H. to have Sunday visitation with M.R. (13 NY3d 753 [2009]). We now reaffirm our holding in Alison D., but reverse the Appellate Division’s order in this case for reasons of comity in light of Debra H.’s status as M.R.’s parent under Vermont law.

I.

Domestic Relations Law § 70 (a) provides that

“[w]here a minor child is residing within this state, either parent may apply to the supreme court for a writ of habeas corpus to have such minor child brought before such court; and on the return thereof, the court, on due consideration, may award *590the natural guardianship, charge and custody of such child to either parent for such time, under such regulations and restrictions, and with such provisions and directions, as the case may require, and may at any time thereafter vacate or modify such order. In all cases there shall be no prima facie right to the custody of the child in either parent, but the court shall determine solely what is for the best interest of the child, and what will promote its welfare and happiness, and make award accordingly” (emphasis added).

In Alison D., we decided that section 70 does not confer standing on a biological stranger to seek visitation with a child in the custody of a fit parent. Debra H. urges us to exercise what she characterizes as long-standing common-law and equitable powers to recognize the parentage of a nonbiological, nonadoptive individual on a theory of equitable estoppel and in the child’s best interest. As a consequence, she asks us to revisit and either distinguish or overrule Alison D., a case that closely resembles this one factually.

Alison D., the former romantic partner of Virginia M., petitioned for visitation with Virginia M.’s child under Domestic Relations Law § 70. According to Alison D., she and Virginia M. established a relationship, began living together, and decided to have a child whom Virginia M. would conceive through artificial insemination. They agreed to share all parenting responsibilities, and continued to do so for the first two years of the child’s life. When the child was about 2½ years old, however, the parties ended their relationship and Alison D. moved out of the family home. The parties adhered to a visitation schedule for a time, but Virginia M. at first restricted and eventually stopped Alison D.’s contact with the child.

When the case reached us, we rejected Alison D.’s argument that she “acted as a ‘de facto’ parent or that she should be viewed as a parent ‘by estoppel’ (Alison D., 77 NY2d at 656 [emphasis added]). As we explained,

“[traditionally, in this State it is the child’s mother and father who, assuming fitness, have the right to the care and custody of their child, even in situations where the nonparent has exercised some control over the child with the parents’ consent ... To allow the courts to award visitation—a limited form of custody—to a third *591person would necessarily impair the parents’ right to custody and control” (id. at 656-657).

Because Alison D. “concede[d] that [Virginia M. was] a fit parent,” she had “no right to petition the court to displace the choice made by the fit parent in deciding what is in the child’s best interests” (id. at 657).

Citing Domestic Relations Law §§ 71 and 72 (permitting siblings and grandparents respectively to petition for visitation), we emphasized that “[w]here the Legislature deemed it appropriate, it gave other categories of persons standing to seek visitation and it gave the courts the power to determine whether an award of visitation would be in the child’s best interests” (id.). Thus, we refused to “read the term parent in section 70 to include categories of nonparents who have developed a relationship with a child or who have had prior relationships with a child’s parents and who wish to continue visitation with the child” (id.).

In support of our decision in Alison D., we cited Matter of Bennett v Jeffreys (40 NY2d 543 [1976]) and Matter of Ronald FF. v Cindy GG. (70 NY2d 141 [1987]), cases which set forth bedrock principles of family law. In Bennett, we held that the State “may not deprive a parent of the custody of a child absent surrender, abandonment, persisting neglect, unfitness or other like extraordinary circumstances” (40 NY2d at 544). Where extraordinary circumstances are present, the court determines custody based on the child’s best interest. Concomitantly, in Ronald FF., we held that “[visitation rights may not be granted on the authority of the . . . Bennett . . . extraordinary circumstances rule, to a biological stranger where the child, born out of wedlock, is properly in the custody of his mother” (70 NY2d at 142); and further noted that the mother possessed a fundamental right “to choose those with whom her child associates,” which the State may not “interfere with . . . unless it shows some compelling State purpose which furthers the child’s best interests” (id. at 144-145).

In Matter of Jacob (86 NY2d 651 [1995]), decided four years after Alison D., we construed section 110 of the Domestic Relations Law, New York’s adoption statute, to permit “the unmarried partner of a child’s biological mother, whether heterosexual or homosexual, who is raising the child together with the biological parent, [to] become the child’s second parent by means of adoption” (id. at 656 [emphasis added]). We stressed that permitting such second-parent adoptions “allows . . . children *592to achieve a measure of permanency with both parent figures and avoids the sort of disruptive visitation battle we faced in [Alison D.\” (id. at 659).2

Although Debra H. argues otherwise, we did not implicitly depart from Alison D. in Shondel J., where there were affirmed findings of fact that Mark D. had held himself out as the child’s biological father, and had treated her as his daughter for the first 4½ years of her life. When Shondel J. sought orders of filiation and support, Mark D. requested DNA testing. The Family Court hearing examiner ordered genetic marker tests, which revealed that Mark D. was not, in fact, the child’s biological father. As we pointed out, Shondel J. was an unusual case because “the process was inverted”: “The procedure contemplated by [sections 418 (a), and 532 (a) of the Family Court Act] is that Family Court should consider paternity by estoppel before it decides whether to test for biological paternity” (7 NY3d at 330 [emphasis added]; see Family Ct Act § 418 [a] [governing paternity where there is a marriage] and § 532 [a] [governing paternity where there is no marriage], which both specify that “[n]o [genetic marker or DNA] tests shall be ordered . . . upon a written finding by the court that it is not in the best interests of the child on the basis of res judicata, equitable estoppel, or the presumption of legitimacy of a child born to a married woman”).

We held in Shondel J. that “a man who has mistakenly represented himself as a child’s father may be estopped from denying paternity, and made to pay child support, when the child justifiably relied on the man’s representation of paternity, to the child’s detriment” (7 NY3d at 324). We premised our decision on “our precedents, the affirmed findings of fact and the legislative recognition of paternity by estoppel” (id. at 326). On the latter point, we highlighted that although paternity by estoppel for purposes of child support “originated in case law,” it was “now secured by statute in New York”; namely, sections 418 (a) and 532 (a) of the Family Court Act (id. at 327).

We did not mention Alison D. in Shondel J. Nor did we intend to signal disaffection with Alison D. by citing Jean Maby H., one of a handful of lower court decisions applying equitable estoppel to custody and visitation proceedings despite Alison D., where *593we considered and explicitly rejected this approach (see Alison D., 77 NY2d at 656). Specifically, after noting that “New York courts have long applied the doctrine of estoppel in paternity and support proceedings [because of] the best interests of the child” (Shondel J., 7 NY3d at 326), we cited Jean Maby H. The pinpoint citation was made to a page where the Appellate Division similarly observed that courts have recognized equitable estoppel “as a defense in various proceedings involving challenges to paternity, including cases where there is evidence that the person seeking to avoid estoppel is not a biological parent” (see Jean Maby H., 246 AD2d at 285 [citations omitted and emphasis added]), and that “[t]he paramount concern in applying equitable estoppel in these cases has been, and continues to be, the best interests of the child” (id. [emphasis added]).

Our holding in Shondel J. was limited to the context in which that case arose—the procedure for determining the paternity of an “alleged father.” Moreover, we see no inconsistency in applying equitable estoppel to determine filiation for purposes of support, but not to create standing when visitation and custody are sought. As already noted, the Legislature has drawn the distinction for us: sections 418 (a) and 532 (a) of the Family Court Act direct the courts to take equitable estoppel into account before ordering paternity testing, while section 70 of the Domestic Relations Law does not even mention equitable estoppel. The procedure dictated by sections 418 (a) and 532 (a) is intended to prevent someone who has held himself out as a child’s biological father from later evading the financial obligations of paternity by means of a scientific litmus test, thereby endangering the child’s economic security or even rendering the child a ward of the State. This may on occasion result in deeming a biological relationship to exist where the putative father is, in fact, a biological stranger to the child, as turned out to be the case in Shondel J. (see Shondel J., 7 NY3d at 331 [Cautioning that “a man who harbors doubts about his biological paternity has a choice to make. He may either put the doubts aside and initiate a parental relationship with the child, or insist on a scientific test of paternity before initiating a parental relationship”]). Debra H. would have us upend this rationale by allowing someone who is a known biological stranger to a child assert a parental relationship over the objections of the child’s biological parent. Shondel J. is consistent with Alison D.’s core holding that parentage under New York law derives from biology or adoption.

In sum, Alison D., in conjunction with second-parent adoption, creates a bright-line rule that promotes certainty in the wake of domestic breakups otherwise fraught with the risk of *594“disruptive . . . battle[s]” (Jacob, 86 NY2d at 659) over parentage as a prelude to further potential combat over custody and visitation. While Debra H. and various amici in this case complain that Alison D. is formulaic, or too rigid, or out of step with the times, we remain convinced that the predictability of parental identity fostered by Alison D. benefits children and the adults in their lives. All four departments of the Appellate Division have consistently followed Alison D. (see e.g. Anonymous v Anonymous, 20 AD3d 333 [1st Dept 2005], appeal dismissed 6 NY3d 740 [2005]; Bank v White, 40 AD3d 790 [2d Dept 2007], lv dismissed 9 NY3d 1002 [2007]; Gulbin v Moss-Gulbin, 45 AD3d 1230 [3d Dept 2007], lv denied 10 NY3d 705 [2008]; Matter of Lynda A.H. v Diane T.O., 243 AD2d 24 [4th Dept 1998], lv denied 92 NY2d 811 [1998]).

Despite this evidence to the contrary, Debra H. also protests that Alison D. has spawned doubt and confusion in the law in the 19 years since it was handed down. To cure this ostensible ill, though, Debra H. asks us to replace the bright-line rule in Alison D. with a complicated and nonobjective test for determining so-called functional or de facto parentage3 at an equitableestoppel hearing to be conducted by the trial court after *595discovery and fact-intensive inquiry in the individual case. These equitable-estoppel hearings—which would be followed by a second, best-interest hearing in the event functional or de facto parentage is demonstrated to the trial court’s satisfaction—are likely often to be contentious, costly, and lengthy. Here, for instance, the two sides collectively submitted affidavits to Supreme Court from at least 60 individuals, any or all of whom might be expected to testify at the equitable-estoppel hearing.

More to the point, the flexible type of rule championed by Debra H. threatens to trap single biological and adoptive parents and their children in a limbo of doubt. These parents could not possibly know for sure when another adult’s level of involvement in family life might reach the tipping point and jeopardize their right to bring up their children without the unwanted participation of a third party.4 Significantly, “the interest of parents in the care, custody, and control of their children[ ] is perhaps the oldest of the fixndamental liberty interests recognized by” the United States Supreme Court (Troxel v Granville, 530 US 57, 65 [2000]). Courts must be sensible of “the traditional presumption that a fit parent will act in the best interest of his or her child” and protect the parent’s “fundamental constitutional right to make decisions concerning the rearing of’ that child (id. at 69-70). In our view, this fundamental right entitles biological and adoptive parents to refuse to allow a second-parent adoption, as Janice R. did, even if they have *596permitted or encouraged another adult to become a virtual parent of the child, as Debra H. insists was the case here.

Next, we agree with Janice R. that any change in the meaning of “parent” under our law should come by way of legislative enactment rather than judicial revamping of precedent. Many states have adopted statutes expanding standing so that individuals who are not legal parents or blood relatives of a child may seek visitation and/or custody. Indiana, for example, authorizes a court to award custody to a “de facto custodian,” defined as

“a person who has been the primary caregiver for, and financial support of, a child who has resided with the person for at least:
“(1) six (6) months if the child is less than three (3) years of age; or
“(2) one (1) year if the child is at least three (3) years of age” (see Ind Code Ann §§ 31-17-2-8.5, 31-9-2-35.5).

Several other states, including Colorado, Texas and Minnesota, likewise incorporate a temporal element in their third-party standing statutes, which contributes to predictability (see e.g. Colo Rev Stat Ann § 14-10-123 [1] [c] [person “other than a parent” may file a petition seeking allocation of parental responsibilities for the child if the person “has had the physical care of a child for a period of six months or more, if such action is commenced within six months of the termination of such physical care”]; Tex Fam Code Ann § 102.003 [a] [9] [“An original suit may be filed at any time by ... a person, other than a foster parent, who has had actual care, control, and possession of the child for at least six months ending not more than 90 days preceding the date of the filing of the petition”]; Minn Stat Ann § 257C.08 [4] [“If an unmarried minor has resided in a household with a person, other than a foster parent, for two years or more and no longer resides with the person, the person may petition the district court for an order granting the person reasonable visitation rights to the child during the child’s minority”]; see also DC Code Ann § 16-831.01 [1]; Or Rev Stat Ann § 109.119 [1]; Wyo Stat Ann § 20-7-102 [a]).

Before granting custody to a nonparent over the parent’s objection, a court in California must “make a finding that granting custody to a parent would be detrimental to the child and that granting custody to the nonparent is required to serve the *597best interest of the child” (Cal Fam Code § 3041 [a]). “Detriment to the child” is defined to include “the harm of removal from a stable placement . . . with a person who has assumed, on a day-to-day basis, the role of [the child’s] parent, fulfilling both the child’s physical needs and . . . psychological needs for care and affection, and who has assumed that role for a substantial period of time” (id. § 3041 [c]). Notably, “[a] finding of detriment does not require any finding of unfitness of the parents” (id.). When making custody determinations in Virginia, the court must “give primary consideration to the best interests of the child . . . [and] assure minor children of frequent and continuing contact with both parents, when appropriate” (Va Code Ann § 20-124.2 [B]). In addition, while “[t]he court shall give due regard to the primacy of the parent-child relationship,” it “may upon a showing by clear and convincing evidence that the best interest of the child would be served thereby award custody or visitation to any other person with a legitimate interest” (id.).

As this brief discussion of how some other states have tackled the standing issue shows, different policies and approaches have been implemented legislatively throughout the nation. Debra H. would have us preempt our Legislature by sidestepping section 70 of the Domestic Relations Law as presently drafted and interpreted in Alison D. to create an additional category of parent—a functional or de facto parent—through the exercise of our common-law and equitable powers. But the Legislature is the branch of government tasked with assessing whether section 70 still fulfills the needs of New Yorkers. The Legislature may conduct hearings and solicit comments from interested parties, evaluate the voluminous social science research in this area cited by Debra H. and the amici, weigh the consequences of various proposals, and make the tradeoffs needed to fashion the rules that best serve the population of our state.

In conclusion, Alison D., coupled with the right of second-parent adoption secured by Jacob, furnishes the biological and adoptive parents of children—and, importantly, those children themselves—with a simple and understandable rule by which to guide their relationships and order their lives. For the reasons set out in this opinion, we decline Debra H.’s invitation to distinguish or overrule Alison D. Whether to expand the standing to seek visitation and/or custody beyond what sections 70, 71 and 72 of the Domestic Relations Law currently encompass remains a subject for the Legislature’s consideration.

*598II.

Our reaffirmation of Alison D. does not dispose of this case, however. Debra H. and Janice R. entered into a civil union in Vermont before M.R.’s birth. This circumstance presents two issues for us to decide: whether Debra H. is M.R.’s parent under Vermont law and, in the event that she is, whether as a matter of comity she is his parent under New York law as well, thereby conferring standing for her to seek visitation and custody in a best-interest hearing.

Vermont’s civil union statute provides that parties to a civil union shall have “all the same benefits, protections and responsibilities under law ... as are granted to spouses in a marriage” (Vt Stat Ann, tit 15, § 1204 [a]); and that they shall enjoy the same rights “with respect to a child of whom either becomes the natural parent during the term of the civil union,” as “those of a married couple” (Vt Stat Ann, tit 15, § 1204 [f]). In Miller-Jenkins, the Vermont Supreme Court relied upon these provisions to hold that a child born by artificial insemination to one partner of a civil union should be deemed the other partner’s child under Vermont law for purposes of determining custodial rights following the civil union’s dissolution (Miller-Jenkins, 180 Vt at 464-465, 912 A2d at 969-970). The court concluded that in the context of marriage, a child born by artificial insemination was deemed the child of the husband even absent a biological connection. In light of section 1204 and by parity of reasoning, the court decided that the same result pertained to the partner in the civil union with no biological connection to the child.

Janice R. counters that in Miller-Jenkins the child was conceived by artificial insemination after the parties entered into their civil union, while M.R. was conceived before her civil union with Debra H. We see no reason why the Vermont Supreme Court would reach a different result about parentage based on this distinction. The court repeatedly emphasized how important it was that the child was born during the civil union (180 Vt at 465, 912 A2d at 970 [“Many factors are present here that support a conclusion that (the partner with no biological connection to the child) is a parent, including, first and foremost, that (she and the child’s biological mother) were in a valid legal union at the time of the child’s birth”]; 180 Vt at 466, 912 A2d at 971 [“Because so many factors are present in this case that allow us to hold that the nonbiologically-related partner is the child’s parent, we need not address which factors *599may be dispositive on the issue . . . We do note that, in accordance with common law, the couple’s legal union at the time of the child’s birth is extremely persuasive evidence of joint parentage”]). Indeed, entering into the civil union at a time when both partners know that one of them is pregnant by artificial insemination might well be viewed as presenting an even stronger case than Miller-Jenkins to support the nonbiological partner’s parentage. There is certainly no potential for misunderstanding, ignorance or deceit under such circumstance.

Janice R. does not challenge the civil union’s validity. She protests, though, that it was “of utterly no consequence” to her, and that while she “gave into” Debra H.’s “demand[s],” she did not enter into the civil union “blindly.” Rather, Janice R.—who is a practicing attorney—professes to have conducted research and to have “found that [entering into a Vermont civil union] was of no legal significance in the State of New York, which is still the case today.” Moreover, she claims to have “conferred with an attorney to make certain that a ‘civil union’ was of no legal consequence,” and to have been “assured that it was not.” Finally, she avers that “[k]nowing that the civil union was of no legal consequence in New York and did not confer . . . any additional rights and responsibilities, combined with [her] desire to put an end to [Debra H.’s] nagging, [she] acquiesced to the civil union.”

In fact, the potential legal ramifications in New York of entering into a civil union in Vermont were uncertain in 2003,5 and remain unsettled except to the extent we resolve the specific issue—i.e., parentage—presented by this case. Whatever her motivation or expectation, Janice R. chose to travel to Vermont to enter into a civil union with Debra H. In light of the Miller-Jenkins decision, we conclude that Debra H. is M.R.’s parent under Vermont law as a result of that choice. The question then becomes whether New York courts should accord comity to *600Vermont and recognize Debra H. as M.R.’s parent under New York law as well.

The doctrine of comity

“does not of its own force compel a particular course of action. Rather, it is an expression of one State’s entirely voluntary decision to defer to the policy of another. Such a decision may be perceived as promoting uniformity of decision, as encouraging harmony among participants in a system of cooperative federalism, or as merely an expression of hope for reciprocal advantage in some future case in which the interests of the forum are more critical” (Ehrlich-Bober & Co. v University of Houston, 49 NY2d 574, 580 [1980] [citation omitted]).

New York’s “determination of whether effect is to be given foreign legislation is made by comparing it to our own public policy; and our policy prevails in case of conflict” (id.). The court locates the public policy of the state in “the law as expressed in statute and judicial decision” and also considers “the prevailing attitudes of the community” (id.). Even in the case of a conflict, however, New York’s public policy may yield “in the face of a strong assertion of interest by the other jurisdiction” (id.).

New York will accord comity to recognize parentage created by an adoption in a foreign nation (see Matter of Doe, 14 NY3d 100, 107-108 [2010] [comity may be extended to a Cambodian adoption certificate so that an individual who is a child’s father under Cambodian law is also his father under New York law]). We see no reason to withhold equivalent recognition where someone is a parent under a sister state’s law. Janice R., as was her right as M.R.’s biological parent, did not agree to let Debra H. adopt M.R. But the availability of second-parent adoption to New Yorkers of the same sex negates any suggestion that recognition of parentage based on a Vermont civil union would conflict with our State’s public policy. Nor would comity undermine the certainty that Alison D. promises biological and adoptive parents and their children: whether there has been a civil union in Vermont is as determinable as whether there has been a second-parent adoption. And both civil union and adoption require the biological or adoptive parent’s legal consent, as opposed to the indeterminate implied consent featured in the various tests proposed to establish de facto or *601functional parentage.6 In sum, our decision does not lead to protracted litigation over standing and is consistent with New York’s public policy by affording predictability to parents and children alike.

Although she sought more expansive rulings, Debra H. also made the narrower case on this appeal that “comity should be accorded to the civil union at least to recognize [her] as a parent to M.R,” and that “[acknowledging the significance to M.R. of his parents’ Vermont civil union does not require resolving whether New York grants comity to the civil union for other purposes” (emphasis added) (see e.g. Godfrey v Spano, 13 NY3d 358 [2009] [deciding taxpayer challenges on grounds not implicating New York’s common-law marriage recognition rule]). We agree for the reasons given, and thus in this case decide only that New York will recognize parentage created by a civil union in Vermont. Our determination that Debra H. is M.R.’s parent allows her to seek visitation and custody at a best-interest hearing. There, she will have to establish facts demonstrating a relationship with M.R. that warrants an award in her favor.

Accordingly, the order of the Appellate Division should be reversed, with costs, and the case remitted to Supreme Court for a best-interest hearing in accordance with this opinion.

. After Janice R. and Debra H. broke up, Janice R. conceived another child through artificial insemination. Debra H. does not claim to have developed any relationship with this child, who was born after she brought this action.

. While Judge Ciparick criticizes Alison D. for taking an “unwarranted hard line stance, fixing biology above all else as the key to determining parentage” (see Ciparick, J., concurring op at 607), our subsequent decision in Jacob softened any such “hard line” by permitting second-parent adoption.

. At oral argument, Debra H. advocated for the standard established by the Wisconsin Supreme Court in In re Custody of H.S.H.-K. (193 Wis 2d 649, 533 NW2d 419 [1995]). After first concluding that Wisconsin’s visitation statute was not the exclusive means of obtaining court-ordered visitation and therefore did not preclude an exercise of its equitable powers, the Wisconsin Supreme Court, “mindful of preserving a biological or adoptive parent’s constitutionally protected interests and the best interest of a child,” decided that a trial court may “determine whether visitation is in a child’s best interest if the petitioner first proves that he or she has a parent-like relationship with the child and that a significant triggering event justifies state intervention in the child’s relationship with a biological or adoptive parent” (193 Wis 2d at 658, 533 NW2d at 421 [emphases added]). The court further determined that “[t]o meet these two requirements, the petitioner must prove the component elements of each one” (193 Wis 2d at 658, 533 NW2d at 421).

Specifically,

“[t]o demonstrate the existence of the petitioner’s parent-like relationship with the child, the petitioner must prove four elements: (1) that the biological or adoptive parent consented to, and fostered, the petitioner’s formation and establishment of a parent-like relationship with the child; (2) that the petitioner and the child lived together in the same household; (3) that the petitioner assumed obligations of parenthood by taking significant responsibility for the child’s care, education and development, including contributing towards the child’s support, without expectation of financial compensation; and (4) that the petitioner *595has been in a parental role for a length of time sufficient to have established with the child a bonded, dependent relationship parental in nature” (193 Wis 2d at 658-659, 533 NW2d at 421).

The contribution to a child’s support (the third element) need not be monetary. Finally,

“[t]o establish a significant triggering event justifying state intervention in the child’s relationship with a biological or adoptive parent, the petitioner must prove that this parent has interfered substantially with the petitioner’s parent-like relationship with the child, and that petitioner sought court ordered visitation within a reasonable time after the parent’s interference” (193 Wis 2d at 659, 533 NW2d at 421).

. Judge Ciparick counters that the biological or adoptive parent may simply withhold “consent[ ] to the formation of [a] parental relationship between the [third party] and the child” (see Ciparick, J., concurring op at 609). This is no answer since the parent cannot predict the inherently unpredictable—i.e., how a judge might someday rule on the question of whether or when there had been sufficient “consent” such that, as a consequence, a “parental relationship” had been “formed.” And erecting a Chinese wall to isolate the child from those adults who play a significant role in the parent’s life is probably not practical, and is certainly not desirable for either the child or the parent.

. The first Supreme Court decision to consider the consequences in New York of a Vermont civil union was issued in April 2003—several months before Debra H. and Janice R. entered into their civil union—and was widely publicized. Although reversed by the Appellate Division in 2005, the trial court concluded that the surviving partner of a civil union validly contracted in Vermont was entitled to recognition as a “spouse” under New York’s wrongful death statute and therefore had standing to recover for the wrongful death of his partner in the civil union (see Langan v St. Vincent’s Hosp. of N.Y., 196 Misc 2d 440 [Sup Ct, Nassau County 2003], revd 25 AD3d 90 [2d Dept 2005], appeal dismissed based on lack of finality 6 NY3d 890 [2006]).

. Vermont, like New York, does not provide by statute or case law for functional or de facto parentage (see Titchenal v Dexter, 166 Vt 373, 385, 693 A2d 682, 689 [1997] [Vermont Supreme Court concluded that lesbian companion of adoptive mother has no right to parent-child contact as equitable or de facto parent, noting that “(g)iven the complex social and practical ramifications of expanding the classes of persons entitled to assert parental rights by seeking custody or visitation, the Legislature is better equipped to deal with the problem” of third parties claiming a parent-like relationship and seeking court-compelled contact with a child]).