dissenting.
I respectfully dissent. A petitioner seeking adoption without consent of the natural parent bears the formidable burden of proving the statutory criteria set forth in Ind. Code § 31 — 3—1—6(i)(l) by clear, cogent and indubitable evidence. In re Leckrone (1980), Ind.App., 413 N.E.2d 977. Indubitable means “not open to question or doubt: too evident to be doubted: unquestionable.” In re Adoption of Thomas (1982), Ind.App., 431 N.E.2d 506, 514, trans. denied. In this case the Townsends have not carried their burden and therefore the trial court’s judgment should be reversed.
Of the three distinct situations under which consent to adopt is not required of a natural parent, two are relevant here, namely: the natural parent either abandoned the child or the natural parent failed to significantly communicate with the child. In support of its determination that Williams abandoned his minor daughter, the trial court found:
[T]he act of the Respondent of the killing of the mother of this child, the resulting trauma to the child, the resulting disabilities of the child, the efforts of these adoptive parents to obtain care, counseling, and to repair as much as it can be done, the loss that this child has sustained and the failure of this father to maintain significant communication with the child, should constitute abandonment and desertion of the child by this father.
Record at 217. “Abandonment,” as the term is used in the adoption statute, refers to conduct on the part of the parent which shows a “settled purpose to forego all parental duties and relinquish all parental claims to the child.” Murphy v. Vanderver (1976), 169 Ind.App. 528, 529, 349 N.E.2d 202, 203.
There is no question that Debra’s murder at the hands of Williams was tragic and reprehensible. However, I am not willing, as is the majority, to conclude that Williams’ conduct represents abandonment as a matter of law. Rather, the test is whether Williams showed a “settled purpose” to forego all parental duties and relinquish all parental claims to his daughter. See Murphy, 169 Ind.App. at 529, 349 N.E.2d at 203. The law is clear that imprisonment, standing alone, does not establish abandonment or desertion so as to allow an adoption without the parent’s consent. In re Adoption of Herman (1980), Ind.App., 406 N.E.2d 277. Hence, additional factors must be present in order to demonstrate abandonment.
There is little doubt that the consequences of Williams’ conduct will make it more difficult for him to fulfill his parental duties or to exercise any parental claim. He will be incarcerated until the year 2015. However, it is conduct which shows a settled or intended purpose to affect these ends rather than consequences of the conduct that results in abandonment. Apparently, the majority recognizes this distinction but summarily dis- ■ misses it by speculating that the legislature was guilty of “oversight” in faihng to include a consent exception in the adoption statute that would cover the facts of this case. See Op. at 254. I disagree. Ind.Code § 31-3-1-6(i)(l) is fully adequate to address the facts of this case. However, the facts here do not support the conclusion that abandonment has occurred. As this court observed in In re Adoption of Thomas: “Courts have not hesitated to build a strong fortress around the rights of natural parents to their children. For this fortress to be vulnerable to encroachment, the one seeking to sever the parent-child relationship should not only present a preponderance of proof but such proof should be established ‘by clear, cogent and indubitable evidence.’ ” 431 N.E.2d at 513 quoting Graham v. Starr (1981), Ind.App., 415 N.E.2d 772, 774. On the question of abandonment that proof is absent here.
Further, there is no question that the Townsends’ efforts on R.W.’s behalf are laudable and should be commended. Nonetheless, their efforts do not address the issue of abandonment. Rather, those efforts demonstrate a loving and caring couple whose adop*256tion of R.W. very well may be in the child’s best interest. However the law is well settled that in an adoption proceeding where parental consent has not been obtained, the court cannot consider whether the adoption is in the child’s best interest until the petitioner has proven at least one of the statutory grounds for dispensing with consent. In re Adoption of Augustyniak (1987), Ind.App., 505 N.E.2d 868, reh’g denied, 508 N.E.2d 1307, trans. denied. Therefore, in this ease, either abandonment or failure to significantly communicate must be first established before the best interest rule can be applied. Abandonment has not been shown.
In like fashion, the record before us does not demonstrate that the Townsends proved by clear, cogent and indubitable evidence that Williams failed to significantly communicate with R.W. There is no talismanic test which can be applied to distinguish between communication which is “significant” and that which is merely “token” under I.C. § 31-3-1 — 6(i). Insignificant communication with a free parent may be significant in relation to an incarcerated parent with limited access to his child. Lewis v. Roberts (1986), Ind.App., 495 N.E.2d 810, 813.
Here, the majority apparently has taken the position that letters Williams wrote his daughter amounted to merely token communication. This position is supported by the trial court’s findings of fact which dictate in part, “Court further finds that the respondent has not communicated nor visited with the child since the time he was incarcerated ... except by occasional letter or card sent to his sister.” Record at 213. The problem, however, is that the trial court’s findings are not consistent with the evidence. I certainly recognize that upon review of the trial court’s decision in an adoption proceeding this court does not reweigh evidence or judge witness credibility, but instead we examine the evidence most favorable to the trial court’s decision. Adoption of Herman, 406 N.E.2d at 278. On the other hand, the trial court may not disregard evidence and we may reverse the trial court’s decision where the evidence at trial led to but one conclusion and the trial court reached an opposite conclusion. In re Adoption of Hewitt (1979), Ind.App., 396 N.E.2d 938.
In this case Williams testified that he had written hundreds of letters to his daughter and forwarded the letters to his sister, Barbara Ledsinger for delivery to the child. He also testified that on various occasions R.W. would send letters, cards and drawings to him by way of his sister. Barbara Ledsinger testified and confirmed Williams’ testimony as did Williams’ mother. There was no evi-dentiary dispute concerning the number of letters Williams sent his daughter. The testimony in this regard was introduced into evidence without objection and was never refuted. Clearly Williams’ communication with R.W. amounted to more than an “occasional letter or card” and cannot be accurately characterized as token.
Also, during this period of Williams’ incarceration, R.W. has been in the Townsend’s custody. The record shows that Ledsinger and other family members have visited R.W. at the Townsends’ home on a regular basis. This fact is significant because visitation by a family member has been recognized as indirect communication by the non-custodial natural father when his child is in the custody of a third party. See In re Adoption of Thomas (1982), Ind.App., 431 N.E.2d 506, trans. denied; In re Adoption of Anonymous (1973), 158 Ind.App. 238, 302 N.E.2d 507. In sum, the evidence in this case shows that Williams either engaged or attempted to engage in significant communication with his minor daughter. There is no clear, cogent and indubitable evidence to the contrary.
The standard of proof required of a petitioner in an adoption proceeding is formidable. In this case the Townsends have not met that standard. In my view the evidence of record compels a conclusion opposite that reached by the trial court. Therefore, I would reverse the judgment.