[EDITORS' NOTE: THIS PAGE CONTAINS HEADNOTES. HEADNOTES ARE NOT AN OFFICIAL PRODUCT OF THE COURT, THEREFORE THEY ARE NOT DISPLAYED.] The court erred in overruling and denying defendant's motion to suspend and abate the plaintiff's motion and proceeding for in that plaintiff was guilty of contempt of the court by his willfully disobeying the order of the court which he was by his motion herein seeking affirmative relief respecting, by a modification thereof in his favor. 32 C.J. 433, sec. 739, n. 63; 32 C.J. 511, sec. 891, n. 27; Soderberg v. Soderberg (Cal.),219 P. 82; Knoob v. Knoob (Cal.), 218 P. 568; Weeks v. Superior Court (Cal.), 203 P. 93; Funfar v. Superior Court (Cal.), 290 P. 626,627; State v. Ronald (Wash.), 180 P. 125; Casebolt v. Butler (Ky.), 194 S.W. 306; Monterey Coal v. Superior Court (Cal.),104 P. 585; McClung v. McClung, 40 Mich. 493; Baily v. Baily (Ia.), 28 N.W. 443; Skirven v. Skirven (Md.), 140 A. 205; Campbell v. Campbell (Ky.), 4 S.W.2d 1112; Gant v. Gant (Tenn.),53 A.D. 736; 6 R.C.L. 526, sec. 39; 13 C.J. 91, sec. 139; Hovey v. Elliott (N.Y.), 39 L.R.A. 449, affd. 42 L. Ed. 215; Early v. Early (D.C.), 261 Fed. 1003-1004.
The court erred in overruling defendant's objection to plaintiff's exhibit 9, being a purported letter from one D. Philip MacGuire to plaintiff, suggesting to plaintiff that he, MacGuire, might be able to effect a *Page 33 compromise of the controversy between plaintiff and defendant relative to the child if defendant will listen to reason and if plaintiff will put up a sum of money in six figures, well up, etc. — there being no proper, sufficient or any foundation laid showing or tending to show that defendant had any previous notice or knowledge whatever of said MacGuire sending such or any similar letter to plaintiff; and there was no evidence directly or indirectly connecting her with the transaction of said letter being sent by said MacGuire.
Admission in evidence of the MacGuire letter was highly prejudicial to appellant. 4 C.J. 910, 911, 912, sec. 288 and n. 83; Peterson v. Pittsburg Silver Peak G.M. Co., 37 Nev. 117; Meek v. Daugherty (Okla.), 97 P. 557; Wells Fargo Co. v. Mitchell (Tex.), 139 S.W. 926; State, etc. Bank v. Roseberry (Okla.),148 P. 1034; Muncey v. Pullman, etc. Co. (Pa.), 112 A. 130; Acree v. Shaw (Ala.), 80 So. 817; Ford v. Piowaty Sons, 197 Ill. 417; Levy v. J.L. Mott, etc. Co., 127 N.Y.S. 506; Metropolitan State Bank v. McNutt (Colo.), 215 P. 151; Southern Surety Co. v. Nalle Co. (Tex.), 242 S.W. 197; Saari v. Wells Fargo Co. (Wash.),186 P. 898; St. Louis etc. Co. v. Freasier (Tex.), 237 S.W. 344; 2 R.C.L. 235, sec. 196; 2 R.C.L. 253, sec. 206. The law requires a party urging such a motion as here presented to the lower court by the defendant to make a sufficient showing of a change of circumstances as to warrant a modification of the original decree and orders of the court. Crockett v. Crockett, 132 Iowa 388, 106 N.W. 944; Rasmussen v. Rasmussen, 231 P. 964; Kettelle v. Kettelle, 294 P. 453; Wood v. Wood, 216 P. 937.
In determining whether the motions of the respective parties should be granted, or whether both should be denied, the lower court had one guide only to follow. That guide was what was to the best interests of the child. Atkins v. Atkins, 50 Nev. 333; Ex Parte *Page 34 Madson, 169 P. 336; Wilkerson v. McGinn, 188 P. 472; Brock v. Brock, 212 P. 550.
There was presented to the lower court evidence which tended to establish that the best interests of the child would be benefited by remaining with the plaintiff.
In arriving at its decision, under the facts, the trial court was clothed with a broad discretion. Sec. 9462, N.C.L.; Atkins v. Atkins, supra.
The sole question before this court is whether the lower court abused its discretion. Lefebvre v. Lefebvre, 192 P. 76; Black v. Black, 86 P. 505; Bancroft v. Bancroft, 173 P. 582.
"Unless modified or set aside, a decree awarding the custody of a child is conclusive as to all questions affecting the matter existing at the time it was rendered, and cannot be collaterally attacked." 19 C.J. 349. See, also, 19 C.J. 352, 366; Crockett v. Crockett, 132 Ia. 388, 106 N.W. 944.
It is contended by respondent that the MacGuire letter was admissible, yet even if that letter had been inadmissible and incompetent as evidence, no reversal of this case would be warranted because of its admission, for the reason that no prejudice resulted therefrom to defendant. In this state, where a case is tried without a jury, the admission of incompetent evidence does not necessarily require a reversal. Rehling v. Brainard, 38 Nev. at p. 21; Rawhide Baloon Fraction Mining Co. v. The Rawhide Coalition Mines Co., 33 Nev. 307.
"The mere failure of a complainant to comply with an interlocutory order of the court without any adjudication that he is in contempt does not preclude him from being heard in the case." 13 C.J. 91.
OPINION This is a proceeding involving the custody of an infant child.
The parties were intermarried on October 22, 1923, and lived for some years at Great Neck, on Long *Page 35 Island, New York. The father, to whom we will refer as plaintiff, according to often-repeated and undenied statements, is a man of great wealth. He owned a home on Long Island which cost a handsome sum. While living there the infant in question was born, on August 7, 1924. Some differences arose between the parties, and the wife left the home and went to her mother's. Their differences were composed, and a young lady entered the household as nurse for the child. Thereafter the plaintiff sought to establish his home in Nevada. He purchased a tract of land and erected thereon a magnificent house. After some persuasion, he succeeded in inducing the wife to come to Nevada and to occupy the house he had constructed. Only a few months elapsed when differences sprang up between the parties, the wife leaving the home and taking with her to Reno the child in question, Ralph Elsman, Jr. A few weeks thereafter the plaintiff brought suit for a divorce. The defendant filed an answer and cross-complaint. Upon the trial, on January 4, 1927, in which the plaintiff did not appear, the wife was awarded a divorce because of the cruel and inhuman treatment of the plaintiff. The court also found that both parties were fit, proper, and suitable persons to have the sole custody, care, and control of the minor child mentioned, but that it was for the best interest of the child that the plaintiff be awarded the custody of said minor. This finding was based upon the testimony and agreement of the defendant. It was further ordered that the defendant might have the possession of the child in Washoe County, Nevada, for one month and for two weeks at another time, annually.
In February, 1927, the plaintiff married Miss Florence Diehl, the nurse mentioned. On March 31, 1928, plaintiff filed a notice of motion to change the decree as to the custody of the child. The defendant at that time was in New York state, and she filed a counter motion. Upon the hearing of these motions the court, in May, 1928, entered an order modifying the original decree so that the defendant might only visit the child at the home of the plaintiff, at Franktown, Nevada, and not *Page 36 elsewhere, unless otherwise mutually agreed, during one hour of each day of one calendar month in each and every year; said month to be designated by the defendant upon thirty days' notice to the plaintiff. Neither of the aforesaid orders were appealed from.
In the fall of 1929, the plaintiff sought to have the former order modified so as to deny to the defendant the right of visitation. Thereafter the defendant filed a motion asking for a modification of the order so as to give her exclusive custody of the child. The matter came on for hearing on February 6, 1930, and continued intermittently for many weeks, having been submitted on oral and documentary evidence, depositions, and affidavits.
On December 3, 1930, the court entered an order denying both the motion of the plaintiff and that of the defendant. However, it modified the order of May 2, 1928, being the order modifying the original decree, to the effect that the defendant be entitled to visit said child for one hour each day during the month of July of each year, at the residence of the plaintiff at Franktown, Nevada, or at his home in Reno, Nevada, under like conditions mentioned in the former order.
The defendant has appealed.
The plaintiff, in support of his petition, set forth several grounds, all of which are enumerated in his brief, but since nothing can be considered which happened prior to the order of May, 1928, we will not state his contention as to those, except where they may be said to be of such nature as to demand our consideration in connection with the alleged circumstances arising subsequent to May, 1928.
Plaintiff alleges his marriage to Florence Diehl Elsman in 1927, and that by reason of the absence of defendant and the care of the stepmother the child had come to regard the latter as his mother; that since the 4th of January, 1927, defendant had not made inquiry of any one personally as to his health or welfare, and had manifested but little interest in him, and that the child had *Page 37 not retained any love or affection for the defendant; that the defendant no longer knew or understood the requirements of the child so as to give him the necessary care; that her sole interest in the minor child has been to utilize the love and affection of the plaintiff for the child to extort large sums of money from him; that defendant has harassed and annoyed the plaintiff and kept him in a nervous and unstrung condition; and that these actions on the part of the defendant have reacted upon the child, through the plaintiff.
Defendant, in her petition to modify the order, alleges that the stipulation of January 3, 1927, which was the basis of the decree of January 4, 1927, awarding the custody of the child to the plaintiff, was induced by false and fraudulent representations made by plaintiff to defendant, and the legal advice which she received at the time; that the modification of the decree of May, 1928, was entered through inadvertence and excusable neglect; that on account of the tender age of the child it would be to his best interest to be placed in the custody of the mother, for the reason that the plaintiff is of a nervous, excitable, and irritable disposition, and of a violent and ungovernable temper; that the plaintiff and Florence Diehl Elsman had conspired to deprive the defendant of the right to visit the child; that since May, 1928, the plaintiff and the child have moved from Nevada to the State of California; that since the remarriage of plaintiff two minor children have been born as issue of such marriage; that the defendant is on unfriendly terms with the present wife of plaintiff; that plaintiff has an extreme hatred for the defendant and has communicated the same to the child, and has concealed from said child the true parentage as to his mother, and has continued to wean away the affection of the child for its natural mother; and that the plaintiff has willfully and maliciously refused to comply with the order of the court in respect to the defendant's visits to the child.
1. The first matter which we will consider is the motion of the defendant to abate the plaintiff's motion *Page 38 to modify, on the ground that he was in contempt of court, in that he had refused the defendant permission to see the child, though she had given him the required notice. While the conduct of the plaintiff in this regard, as in some other things, particularly his repeated and uncalled for insinuations while on the witness stand, does not comport with our ideals of what one situated as he was should have been, yet in view of the fact that the trial court did not see fit to take cognizance of his refusal to comply with the order, and in view of the record as a whole, we are of the opinion that we should not inflict a penalty for a violation of that court's order.
2. It is next contended that the court erred in admitting in evidence a letter written to the plaintiff by one D. Philip MacGuire, in which he suggested to the plaintiff that he thought that for a sum of money he could bring about a settlement of the controversy as to the custody of the child. We think the court erred in admitting this letter in evidence, for, though it appears that MacGuire is a relative of the defendant and had been one of her advisors, there is nothing in the record to indicate that he had any authority from the defendant to make such a proposal. Indeed, in the letter he disclaimed any such authority; furthermore, the defendant had repeatedly signified and we are convinced that money was not the motivating cause in her contest over her right to have access to the child and to his custody at times. Whether the ruling was prejudicial remains to be determined.
The next point goes to the proposition that the court unduly restricted the cross-examination of the plaintiff. We have carefully examined the record in this connection and are of the opinion that the court not only did not err, but that its ruling on the point was clearly right. In fact, the matter sought to be gone into was one upon which both sides were agreed. It was not in issue. The so-called cross-examination which counsel desired to make was not cross-examination at all, as no testimony had been given on direct examination on the point.
3. We enter upon the consideration of this matter *Page 39 upon its merits with a solemn adjudication of the lower court to the effect that both parties are fit, proper, and suitable persons to have custody of the child. Such determination is conclusive as to the conditions then existing, and should not be altered unless there has been a change of conditions which make it necessary for the welfare of the child that the last-mentioned order be modified. This rule of law is overwhelmingly established by authority, and the considerations leading to such conclusion seem unanswerable in reason. Milner v. Gatlin, 143 Ga. 816,85 S.E. 1045, L.R.A. 1916B, 977; Dawson v. Dawson, 57 W. Va. 520,50 S.E. 613, 110 Am. St. Rep. 800; Weatherton v. Taylor,124 Ark. 579, 187 S.W. 450; Jewett v. Jewett, 73 Mont. 591, 237 P. 702; Griffin v. Griffin, 95 Or. 78, 187 P. 598; Crockett v. Crockett,132 Iowa, 388, 106 N.W. 944; Bates v. Bates, 166 Ill. 448,46 N.E. 1078; Bryan v. Lyon, 104 Ind. 227, 3 N.E. 880, 54 Am. Rep. 309; Raily v. Raily (Ky.), 66 S.W. 414; Flory v. Ostrom, 92 Mich. 622,52 N.W. 1038; Eckhard v. Eckhard, 29 Neb. 457, 45 N.W. 466; 19 C.J. 350; 9 R.C.L. p. 476; see note to Averbuch v. Averbuch, Ann. Cas. 1916B, 894.
4. In determining the question of the custody of a child, the sole consideration of the court should be its welfare. Atkins v. Atkins, 50 Nev. 333, 259 P. 288; 9 R.C.L. p. 475; 19 C.J. 343. In fact, our statute settles this question. It provides: "The court * * * shall make such disposition of, and provision for, the children, as shall appear most expedient under all the circumstances, and most for the present comfort and future well-being of such children." (Section 9462, N.C.L.)
The section just mentioned also provides that the court upon good cause shown, may change the custody of a child.
Do the developments subsequent to May 2, 1928, warrant a change of custody of the child?
The record in this case is very voluminous and precludes a consideration of it at length; nor do we deem it advisable to quote or comment upon it at length.
We cannot find in the record a scintilla of evidence *Page 40 justifying even a suspicion that the defendant lost her love and affection for the child, or that she sought to extort money from the plaintiff. On the other hand, the record shows conclusively that at no time did she undertake the latter. When an offer of money was made to relinquish her claim, she spurned it.
We think the contention that the defendant's action in seeking to see the child, at the times she gave notice of her intention to visit him, harassed and annoyed the plaintiff and kept him in an unstrung nervous condition, which reacted upon the child, is without merit. She had a legal right to give such notices, and, while they may have come at inopportune times for the plaintiff, there is no evidence to justify the conclusion that there was any design on the part of the defendant to harass or annoy him. The evidence of Dr. Emge, the plaintiff's own witness, clearly shows his temperament, and the evidence of the three specialists called on behalf of the defendant tends to sustain the contention of the defendant that the plaintiff is not of such temperament as to best promote the welfare of the child; but since it does not appear that this condition did not prevail prior to May, 1928, we think we are precluded from pursuing that line of inquiry.
As to the contention that the child has not retained any love or affection for the defendant, conceding it to be true, it may be accounted for because of its extreme youth and the infrequency of its contact with her, for which she reasonably accounts, and the failure of the plaintiff and Florence Diehl Elsman to instruct it as to its real maternal parentage.
If we were to concede that the defendant were misled in entering into the agreement of January 3, 1927, which resulted in the decree of the following day, we fail to find anything in the showing made justifying the modification of the order on that ground. Nor do we find any showing of excusable neglect relative to the order of May 2, 1928. In fact, neither of these contentions is seriously urged.
As to the suggestion that the tender age of the child *Page 41 is a ground for changing the custody of the child, it may be said that he was, at the time of defendant's application to modify, nearly four years older than when the original decree was entered, and, hence, whatever force there might be to the contention, were the case up for consideration on appeal from an original decree, is of no weight in view of the original decree and subsequent order.
5. The fact that Florence Diehl Elsman is unfriendly to the defendant does not go to affect the welfare of the child. She might be dominated by the most malignant hatred for her, and yet may have centered her devotion upon and consecrated her life to the mental, physical, and moral development of the child. It is claimed that she and plaintiff have sought to poison the mind of the child against its real mother. As to this we must assume that the lower court found to the contrary. The plaintiff testified that it had always been his attitude in the past and that it would be in the future to raise the child to respect its mother.
If it develops at any time in the future that the plaintiff and his present wife are poisoning the mind of the child against its mother, an application may be made to modify the order. Meffert v. Meffert, 118 Ark. 582, 177 S.W. 1; Bedolfe v. Bedolfe,71 Wash. 60, 127 P. 594.
6, 7. Looking at this matter as we do, we can see no theory upon which it can be said that the error in admitting in evidence the MacGuire letter could have prejudiced the lower court. The defendant was in no way shown to have authorized it or to have known of its being sent. The only purpose of such evidence could be to show that the defendant was endeavoring to extort a large sum of money from the plaintiff. As we have pointed out, the defendant, when approached along this line, spurned the offer of money. However, even if she had sought to obtain money from the plaintiff, that fact would not necessarily affect the determination of what was for the welfare of the child, which is the real question in this proceeding.
We think the rule applicable to this situation was *Page 42 expressed by this court in Rehling v. Brainard, 38 Nev. 16,144 P. 167, 169, Ann. Cas. 1917C, 656, as follows: "We think a rule sufficiently established and worthy of adherence is applicable here, i.e., where incompetent evidence is admitted in a trial of a cause by a court sitting without a jury, a reversal is only warranted when it is apparent from the record that the competent evidence was insufficient to support the judgment, or when it is affirmatively shown that the improper evidence affected the result. Miller v. Foster, 28 Okla. 731, 116 P. 438; Gernert v. Griffin, 28 Okla. 733, 116 P. 439."
The great mistake made in this case, if any has been made, was the entering of the original decree. Yet we feel that no criticism can be justly leveled at the defendant in that connection.
8. In view of the fact that the defendant is a nonresident, we cannot say that the fact of the taking of the child to California by the plaintiff justifies a change in the custody of the child. But it has been held that the parent having custody of the child should not take it out of the state having jurisdiction, and if in the future the plaintiff fails or neglects to have the child in the state for visitation in compliance with the order of the court and notice from the defendant, it might be a ground justifying serious consideration.
9. A very large discretion is vested in the trial court in matters of this kind, and its orders should not be lightly overturned. 9 R.C.L. p. 475; Jewett v. Jewett, 73 Mont. 591,237 P. 702.
In considering such matters, the welfare of the child being the sole consideration, it is obvious, as said in Campbell v. Campbell, 96 N.J. Eq. 398, 130 A. 361, that "a 7-year old child ought not to be harassed by shifting her from one parent to the other for any considerable length of time."
And in Bennett v. Bennett, 200 Iowa, 415, 416, 203 N.W. 26,27, it was sagely said:
"Experience has shown that allowing the child to live a part of the time in one household, and a part of *Page 43 the time in another, is not only not to the best interest and welfare of the child, but in many instances it is wholly destructive of discipline. It also shows that the party who has the child for the short time in some instances sows seed of discontent, inculcates a spirit of dissatisfaction and rebellion against authority in the child, and devotes the whole time that the child is with that person in trying to wean the child away from the other party in whose custody it is placed by the decree, and [that the situation] is not for the best interest and welfare of the child, which, as said, should be the fundamental basis on which an order in such matters is founded.
"We do not seek to penalize this appellee for her conduct which resulted in the granting of a divorce to her husband. Neither do we lose sight of the affection which she possibly bears for this child, but it does seem to us that the best interest and welfare of the child requires that it be not taken away from the home and control of the appellant for two months out of each year. On the other hand, we feel that the mother should have the option of visiting the child under reasonable circumstances and conditions, and, if conditions have arisen since the original decree which make the arrangement under that decree unsatisfactory, the lower court would be warranted in making an order changing the place, times, or conditions under which the mother might visit the child. * * *"
If we were to lay aside the principles of law involved in this case and permit ourselves to be dominated by sentimental considerations alone, we would not hesitate in changing the order appealed from, but, viewing the record from a judicial standpoint, and animated as we try to be by judicial considerations alone, we can reach no other conclusion but that the order appealed from should be affirmed, and such is our order. *Page 44